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The Course of Love

The Course of Love

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  • Create Date：2021-04-16 13:58:18
  • Update Date：2025-09-06
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  • Author：Alain de Botton
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Summary

In Edinburgh， a couple， Rabih and Kirsten， fall in love。 They get married， they have children -- but no relationship is as simple as "happily ever after。" The Course of Love is a novel that explores what happens after the birth of love， what it takes to maintain love， and what happens to our original ideals under the pressures of an average existence。 With philosophical insight and psychological acumen， Alain de Botton shows that our Romantic dreams may do us a grave disservice -- and explores what the alternatives might be。 The conclusion， as the characters gradually discover， is that love is not "an enthusiasm，" but rather a "skill" that must be slowly and often painfully learnt。
     This is a Romantic novel in the true sense， one interested in exploring how love can survive and thrive in the long term。

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Reviews

Ana Ghazi ，

ترجمه‌ی مهرداد یوسفی آنقدر بد و افتضاح بود که کتاب رو نیمه رها کردم و مجددا با ترجمه‌ی زهرا باختری خواندم。فقط به عنوان نمونه یک جمله از شاهکار مترجم رو می‌نویسم。 علائم نگارشی رو هم دقیقا مثل ایشون به کار بردم。 شما قضاوت کنید:"ظاهرا هیجانات و میل جنسی، در نهایت، ارتباط کمی با برهنگی ندارد، بلکه احتمالا دستیابی به یک مجوز برای در اختیار گرفتن دیگری، کمتر مورد توجه است، و زمانی ممنوعه بوده، اما اکنون به شکل عجیبی آماده و در دسترس است。" ترجمه‌ی مهرداد یوسفی آنقدر بد و افتضاح بود که کتاب رو نیمه رها کردم و مجددا با ترجمه‌ی زهرا باختری خواندم。فقط به عنوان نمونه یک جمله از شاهکار مترجم رو می‌نویسم。 علائم نگارشی رو هم دقیقا مثل ایشون به کار بردم。 شما قضاوت کنید:"ظاهرا هیجانات و میل جنسی، در نهایت، ارتباط کمی با برهنگی ندارد، بلکه احتمالا دستیابی به یک مجوز برای در اختیار گرفتن دیگری، کمتر مورد توجه است، و زمانی ممنوعه بوده، اما اکنون به شکل عجیبی آماده و در دسترس است。" 。。。more

Elly ，

Loved this book！

Maryam ，

این رمان به روایت چالش های بخشی از عشق می پردازد که به طور معمول بخش "و از آن پس به خوبی و خوشی در کنار هم زندگی کردند" داستان هاست و اغلب به آن پرداخته نمی شود در حالی که همانگونه که در کتاب هم به زیبایی بیان شده مرحله شروع سختی ها و چالش های زندگی مشترک است و راه دراز و پرفراز و نشیبی پیش روی قهرمانان داستان است。 این رمان به روایت چالش های بخشی از عشق می پردازد که به طور معمول بخش "و از آن پس به خوبی و خوشی در کنار هم زندگی کردند" داستان هاست و اغلب به آن پرداخته نمی شود در حالی که همانگونه که در کتاب هم به زیبایی بیان شده مرحله شروع سختی ها و چالش های زندگی مشترک است و راه دراز و پرفراز و نشیبی پیش روی قهرمانان داستان است。 。。。more

Harshit Shukla ，

"Happiness comes in small packets， sometimes these packets are five minutes long"Above loose quote from Mr。Botton has had me grasp what a relationship is supposed to be。 Not everything is supposed to be perfect， far lesser mediocre at best。 Suffering and tragedy is the essence of any real relationship， and this is what most of us ignore， or are ill equipped to handle and observe。 The book very intelligently and carefully scrutinizes the difference situation that any one would find them few years "Happiness comes in small packets， sometimes these packets are five minutes long"Above loose quote from Mr。Botton has had me grasp what a relationship is supposed to be。 Not everything is supposed to be perfect， far lesser mediocre at best。 Suffering and tragedy is the essence of any real relationship， and this is what most of us ignore， or are ill equipped to handle and observe。 The book very intelligently and carefully scrutinizes the difference situation that any one would find them few years into a marriage or a serious relationship， myself being no exception。 The final goal of any relationship is to find the ones suffering for， and accepting our ownselves as the wretched being that we are， ill formed and brought up， and therein lies the salvation。 。。。more

Nick Harrison ，

The greatest gift you could get a lover would be to buy two copies of this book: one for you， one for them。 It is at once an engaging novel， psychotherapeutic advisory and antidote to the constant stream of unattainable romantic ideals fed to us by media and art。 It is not cynical， nor is it sad。 It is perfectly balanced - I felt relieved， hopeful and understood when I finished the last sentence。 Can't recommend it highly enough。 The greatest gift you could get a lover would be to buy two copies of this book: one for you， one for them。 It is at once an engaging novel， psychotherapeutic advisory and antidote to the constant stream of unattainable romantic ideals fed to us by media and art。 It is not cynical， nor is it sad。 It is perfectly balanced - I felt relieved， hopeful and understood when I finished the last sentence。 Can't recommend it highly enough。 。。。more

Mahnaz Panahi ，

من این کتابو توی موقعیت مناسبی خوندم و توصیه ش میکنم کسایی که توی رابطه ای هستن حتما بخوننش （اگر تا حالا هیچ کتابی نخوندند در مورد اینکه روند یه رابطه چه طوریه و چه اتفاقاتی ممکنه بیفته و دلیلش چی میتونه باشه）و حتی کسایی که تا حالا توی رابطه ی جدی نبودن و تصورشون از رابطه با کسی همش گل و بلبله。 میتونه خیلی کمک کنه به دید ادم。

Sarah Ali ，

A must read for anyone trying to understand how to love better。 Love is weird。 It’s hard to pinpoint， it is hard to describe， it is hard to contextualize。 True unconditional love is a skill， it takes practice。 This book is your practice。

clara ，

It has some very interesting insights， but I feel like the book couldn’t get over itself in a way？ It was dripping of pretentiousness， and while I genuinely enjoy a more flourished writing， I couldn’t help but want to roll my eyes at some points。 His style reminds me a bit of Milan Kundera’s， but where Milan is lighthearted and inserts humor into his narrative constantly， adding a blasé and casual flare to his insights， Alain really wanted to prove something to the reader？ I appreciate his effor It has some very interesting insights， but I feel like the book couldn’t get over itself in a way？ It was dripping of pretentiousness， and while I genuinely enjoy a more flourished writing， I couldn’t help but want to roll my eyes at some points。 His style reminds me a bit of Milan Kundera’s， but where Milan is lighthearted and inserts humor into his narrative constantly， adding a blasé and casual flare to his insights， Alain really wanted to prove something to the reader？ I appreciate his efforts to “clear up” the motivations and whatnot of the character， but the book gets tiring reeeeallly fast。 I enjoyed the discussions a lot， and I liked the book， though。。。 。。。more

Maryann ，

In my opinion this book should be made mandatory reading for anyone who is contemplating marriage。 I like how the book starts AFTER the "Happily Ever After"。 Once the exhilarating days of early romance are over， and you've decided to spend every single day of （hopefully） your entire life with this one person you've concluded is the right choice of spouse for you。 The trials， frustrations， triumphs， joys， and sorrows of Rabih and Kirsten are so tangible and intimate， you feel like you're eavesdro In my opinion this book should be made mandatory reading for anyone who is contemplating marriage。 I like how the book starts AFTER the "Happily Ever After"。 Once the exhilarating days of early romance are over， and you've decided to spend every single day of （hopefully） your entire life with this one person you've concluded is the right choice of spouse for you。 The trials， frustrations， triumphs， joys， and sorrows of Rabih and Kirsten are so tangible and intimate， you feel like you're eavesdropping on their lives。 The last two chapters in particular were extremely poignant， and left me with a sad smile on my face。 But this is not a sad book， far from it really。 By the end of the book it felt like I've known Rabih and Kirsten my entire life， and I found myself rooting for them and their marriage。 Definitely worth reading。 （This is not a paid review） 。。。more

Ge ，

It is more a case study than a novel。 I found it truly insightful， constructive and provoking at times。 I laughed a lot too。 De Bottom the philosopher has driven the book and every note rings true and likely mirrors our own stories。 Every couple should read this manual。

Nayeli ，

This book was more than I expected it to be。 To describe it simply it's the story of a marriage， mostly told from the perspective of a male character， with some intermissions of philosophy here and there that act like an "explanation" of what is happening。 It goes from his adolescent romanticism， through marriage， having children， even touching on topics like adultery， therapy， maturity。。。 and so on， it even discusses pedagogy a little and I agree with the author's views on it。 The story itself This book was more than I expected it to be。 To describe it simply it's the story of a marriage， mostly told from the perspective of a male character， with some intermissions of philosophy here and there that act like an "explanation" of what is happening。 It goes from his adolescent romanticism， through marriage， having children， even touching on topics like adultery， therapy， maturity。。。 and so on， it even discusses pedagogy a little and I agree with the author's views on it。 The story itself is fine but I enjoyed the "annotations" way more， and the alternate scenarios proposed after confrontations （mostly solutions to lack of communication）。 I particularly liked the chapters about sulks and transference， it sure helped me understand the relationships I've been in and my current one。 Obviously I couldn't relate to some chapters but I still understood the situations described， I do wonder what I'd have thought of it if I had read it 15 years ago though。I think the thesis of this book can be summarized with this quote: "Love is a skill， not just an enthusiasm。" Oh and P。S。 I must confess I found out about this author after reading Harry Styles' Vogue interview where he mentions him as one of his favorite writers。 LOL。 。。。more

Natalia Yaneva ，

I love Alain de Botton’s School of Life。 Some might call it naïve。 Could be。 But it also contains a myriad of compassionate and merciful ideas on us humans， an utterly flawed species if ever there was one。 “The Course of Love” is part novel， part philosophical treatise on love with its many winding paths， hidden traps and sunny valleys， its angels and demons。 It compares the ideal of the so called romantic notion of love with a far more realistic version that any of us could stumble upon。 Be I love Alain de Botton’s School of Life。 Some might call it naïve。 Could be。 But it also contains a myriad of compassionate and merciful ideas on us humans， an utterly flawed species if ever there was one。 “The Course of Love” is part novel， part philosophical treatise on love with its many winding paths， hidden traps and sunny valleys， its angels and demons。 It compares the ideal of the so called romantic notion of love with a far more realistic version that any of us could stumble upon。 Because fairy tales never tell us what follows the “happily ever after”。 It’s always the end with them。 Actually in many ways love begins precisely after that point。 If you have ever been in love or something akin to it， or expect yourself to be， or indeed you are a breathing， feeling human being， I recommend reading this book。 。。。more

Sharon ，

I loved this book。 It was a great combination of insightful and entertaining， and I cared about the characters and their story。 It was a bit unusual because it was from the male perspective more than the female， which was fantastic in the insight and was a breath of fresh air。 I went back and forth whether to classify this as fiction or as more psychology， but I settled on psychology。 It uses a fictional love story to highlight the psychological aspects of love， and I thought it was brilliant。 I I loved this book。 It was a great combination of insightful and entertaining， and I cared about the characters and their story。 It was a bit unusual because it was from the male perspective more than the female， which was fantastic in the insight and was a breath of fresh air。 I went back and forth whether to classify this as fiction or as more psychology， but I settled on psychology。 It uses a fictional love story to highlight the psychological aspects of love， and I thought it was brilliant。 I think everyone who is married or thinking about it should read this to get an idea of what love looks like after the movies and romance books stop once they get together。 。。。more

Ameneh ，

این کتاب یک داستان واقعی ست。 یک نگاه کاملا عادی به ازدواج و تعهد 。که ازدواج را نهادی منسجم می بیند که باید سالیان سال ماندگار بماند به دور از احساسات متغیر و گهگاهی هر یک از طرفین。یاداوری این موضوع که زندگی کردن معمولی شجاعت می خواهد。جسارت می خواهد。تلاش می خواهد。 و کامل نیست。（ چیزی که در اذهان کمال گرا به سختی تحمل می شود:）ربیع و کرستن مجموعه ای بودند از کودکان ترسیده ی درون شان و با تجربه های زیسته ی متفاوت و نوع دلبستگی های متفاوت。 واکنش های متفاوت در ساده ترین موقعیت ها。 اما هر دو ماندند تا ت این کتاب یک داستان واقعی ست。 یک نگاه کاملا عادی به ازدواج و تعهد 。که ازدواج را نهادی منسجم می بیند که باید سالیان سال ماندگار بماند به دور از احساسات متغیر و گهگاهی هر یک از طرفین。یاداوری این موضوع که زندگی کردن معمولی شجاعت می خواهد。جسارت می خواهد。تلاش می خواهد。 و کامل نیست。（ چیزی که در اذهان کمال گرا به سختی تحمل می شود:）ربیع و کرستن مجموعه ای بودند از کودکان ترسیده ی درون شان و با تجربه های زیسته ی متفاوت و نوع دلبستگی های متفاوت。 واکنش های متفاوت در ساده ترین موقعیت ها。 اما هر دو ماندند تا تغییردهند و تغییر کنند 。 این شجاعتی ست که هر زوجی ندارد ان هم به قیمت گذر عمر！پ。ن: این کتاب چالش مسائل عاطفی روزمره ست و برای من جالب بود。 ممنونم جناب دو باتن。 。。。more

Arbana ，

This book was written a while ago but it still felt like it could capture greatly all the struggles that go into dating with young couples even today。 I thought it was well written and I liked the paragraphs in italics with takeaways of what love is “supposed to be” and how reality actually is。 Even though a fictional story， a great reality check

Sharon ，

I love this book because it's not a normal romantic novel。 In fact， it's a very philosophical and psychological examination about a couple's relationship from falling in love， becoming a couple， getting married， having marital problems and how each of them， flawed as they are， learn to work it out。 I love this book because it's not a normal romantic novel。 In fact， it's a very philosophical and psychological examination about a couple's relationship from falling in love， becoming a couple， getting married， having marital problems and how each of them， flawed as they are， learn to work it out。 。。。more

Eli ，

سیر عشق، از مصائب عشق نمی‌گوید بلکه به واقعیت‌های آن می‌پردازد。 از روزمرگی‌های دو عاشق که می‌پنداشتند همه‌چیز عالی پیش خواهد رفت。 و در نهایت آنچه به ما می‌آموزد این است که: ما نمی‌توانیم شریک بی‌نقصی برای ادامه زندگی پیدا کنیم بلکه تنها می‌توانیم انتخاب کنیم محبوب‌مان چگونه نقصی داشته باشد。

Gabriela ，

An interesting read， though I felt it was a bit prescriptive at times。

Elizabeth ，

This is an unusually framed story with plenty of philosophical musings on love and long-term relationships。 My favourite part was one of the very last chapters， which was on attachment theory。 I also liked the running commentary on the ideal of romantic love and the damaging view that our partner must be able to intuit and meet all our needs without us communicating them。 Although in fiction （think Pride and Prejudice） this works well in a dramatic sense， it is a recipe for unhappiness in real l This is an unusually framed story with plenty of philosophical musings on love and long-term relationships。 My favourite part was one of the very last chapters， which was on attachment theory。 I also liked the running commentary on the ideal of romantic love and the damaging view that our partner must be able to intuit and meet all our needs without us communicating them。 Although in fiction （think Pride and Prejudice） this works well in a dramatic sense， it is a recipe for unhappiness in real life！。 。。。more

Aneta ，

Gatunek tej książki to coś pomiędzy prozą， a poradnikiem。 I to dosłownie。 Mamy tu opowieść beletrystyczną o miłości pomiędzy dwojgiem ludzi。 Historia jakich wiele。 Poznają się， zakochują， ślub， dzieci， zdrada， wątpliwości。 Pomiędzy tymi perypetiami autor wtrąca nam pisane kursywą dygresje i wnioski o motywacjach naszych bohaterów。 To jest ta część właśnie ta część poradnikowa。 Alain de Botton ma bardzo specyficzne podejście do relacji uczuciowych między ludźmi， bo opiera je właściwie tylko na bi Gatunek tej książki to coś pomiędzy prozą， a poradnikiem。 I to dosłownie。 Mamy tu opowieść beletrystyczną o miłości pomiędzy dwojgiem ludzi。 Historia jakich wiele。 Poznają się， zakochują， ślub， dzieci， zdrada， wątpliwości。 Pomiędzy tymi perypetiami autor wtrąca nam pisane kursywą dygresje i wnioski o motywacjach naszych bohaterów。 To jest ta część właśnie ta część poradnikowa。 Alain de Botton ma bardzo specyficzne podejście do relacji uczuciowych między ludźmi， bo opiera je właściwie tylko na biologii i odrzuca romantyczną stronę naszej osobowości。 Twierdzi wręcz， że jesteśmy zepsuci romantycznymi wzorcami z filmów i książek i właśnie dlatego tak dużo związków się rozpada。 W jego opowieści każde， nawet najbardziej absurdalne zachowanie partnera można logicznie wytłumaczyć jego biologią， relacją z rodzicami， dzieciństwem czy wzorcami z poprzednich związków。 Książkę czyta się bardzo szybko， a zawiera dość ciekawe spostrzeżenia。 Może być dobrą opcją dla osób， które nie lubią drętwych poradników， w których pełno podpunktów i czystej teorii。 。。。more

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Narges ，

انگار یه حجابی رو از جلوی چشمانم برداشت。 یه واقعیت‌هایی رو برام عریان کرد تا خیلی از ترس‌هایی که در رابطه با یک زندگی مشترک دارم برام فرو بریزه。برام روشن کرد که ازدواج یعنی تصمیم گرفتن برای رنجی که متحمل خواهیم شد، چون در نهایت در جایی از زندگی مشترک به کابوس وحشتناک <انتخاب آدم اشتباه> خواهیم رسید。توضیح داد که فرد مناسب ازدواج کسی نیست که شبیه ما باشه بلکه شخصیست که بتونه با صراحت و کلام خوش، در رابطه با اختلاف سلایق صحبت کنه ازدواج رو در سه "ت" بیان کرد که شامل توانایی تحمل تفاوت هاست。و نشون د انگار یه حجابی رو از جلوی چشمانم برداشت。 یه واقعیت‌هایی رو برام عریان کرد تا خیلی از ترس‌هایی که در رابطه با یک زندگی مشترک دارم برام فرو بریزه。برام روشن کرد که ازدواج یعنی تصمیم گرفتن برای رنجی که متحمل خواهیم شد، چون در نهایت در جایی از زندگی مشترک به کابوس وحشتناک <انتخاب آدم اشتباه> خواهیم رسید。توضیح داد که فرد مناسب ازدواج کسی نیست که شبیه ما باشه بلکه شخصیست که بتونه با صراحت و کلام خوش، در رابطه با اختلاف سلایق صحبت کنه ازدواج رو در سه "ت" بیان کرد که شامل توانایی تحمل تفاوت هاست。و نشون داد که هیچ ازدواجی کامل نخواهد بود و اگر دنبال این باشیم یعنی کمال گرایی و خود آزاری و بهتر به دنبال یک ازدواج نسبتا خوب باشیم。در جایی به زیبایی اشاره کرد که ازدواج درسهای فوق العاده ی خودش رو داره و تنها به کسانی این درس ها رو خواهد داد که در کلاس های آموزشی آن ثبت نام کنن。بهم گفت؛ عاقل بودن یعنی شناخت موقعیت‌هایی که منطق و استدلال به هیچ وجه در آنها به کار نیاد。 برایم از دلبستگی اجتنابی و اضطرابی گفت که با توضیحاتش متوجه شدم که مشکل تمام این سال‌های من از دلبستگی اجتنابی ست。 بهترین نکته ای بود که در این کتاب برای شخصیت خودم یافتم。و در نهایت درسهای بسیاری که در حوضه ی ازدواج و زندگی مشترک در قالب رمانی آموزنده شرح داد و رسید به جمله‌ای که بارها تکرار کرد که " عشق شور و شوق نیست بلکه مهارتی است که باید بدست آورد"این کتاب رو برای تمام عزیزانی که به ازدواج به شکل ایده‌آل گرا نگاه میکنن توصیه میکنم。 。。。more

Dayna McCormick ，

This book is odd。。。 but I think I liked it quite a bit。 It’s really a marriage self help book disguised as a novel with font changes to indicate “Lesson Time” vs “Story Time”。 This normally would have been obnoxious but I bought into it。 I don’t remember where I first even heard about it， and I wouldn’t recommend it to anyone who has been married less than 15-ish years as it shines a pretty harsh， but realistic， light on monogamy and the institution in general。 The conclusions though， are attain This book is odd。。。 but I think I liked it quite a bit。 It’s really a marriage self help book disguised as a novel with font changes to indicate “Lesson Time” vs “Story Time”。 This normally would have been obnoxious but I bought into it。 I don’t remember where I first even heard about it， and I wouldn’t recommend it to anyone who has been married less than 15-ish years as it shines a pretty harsh， but realistic， light on monogamy and the institution in general。 The conclusions though， are attainable and hopeful。 。。。more

wanderer ，

“He and Kirsten will marry， they will suffer， they will frequently worry about money， they will have a girl first， then a boy， one of them will have an affair， there will be passages of boredom， they’ll sometimes want to murder one another and on a few occasions to kill themselves。 This will be the real love story。”

Cara Gabrielse ，

Anyone who has been married for a while understands the surprising loneliness of it， the rage you can feel towards the person you love more than anyone else in the world， and the ridiculous amount of futile sulking that happens in the context of till death do us part。 Botton captures all of this and more in the love story of Rahib and Kirsten， from the first date through two kids and their first 13 years of marriage， with helpful interjections of psychoanalysis and philosophy。 A quote from the b Anyone who has been married for a while understands the surprising loneliness of it， the rage you can feel towards the person you love more than anyone else in the world， and the ridiculous amount of futile sulking that happens in the context of till death do us part。 Botton captures all of this and more in the love story of Rahib and Kirsten， from the first date through two kids and their first 13 years of marriage， with helpful interjections of psychoanalysis and philosophy。 A quote from the book and a good reason to read it from p 58， hardback edition: "Ideally art would give us the answers to what other people don't。 This might even be one of the main points of literature: to tell us what society at large is too prudish to explore。 The important books should be those that leave us wondering， with relief and gratitude， how the author could possibly have known so much about our lives。" I checked this book out from the library， but I'll be buying a copy for myself to reread occasionally。 This would be an excellent wedding gift or a gift for a couple who is going through a tough season and need to be reminded that "love is not an enthusiasm but a skill。" 。。。more

♥ Ibrahim ♥ ，

Sincerely I have wanted to like what Alain de Botton as I can see how sharp of a mind he has but it turns out that the brilliant thinker can’t think past the end of his nose。 He is the last one that should have anything to say on love and relationships。 Listen to him sharing his criteria for finding his soulmate:He met his wife Charlotte in 2001 in a typically quirky de Bottonian way。 He was talking with friends late at night and someone asked him to describe his ideal girlfriend， so he did， in Sincerely I have wanted to like what Alain de Botton as I can see how sharp of a mind he has but it turns out that the brilliant thinker can’t think past the end of his nose。 He is the last one that should have anything to say on love and relationships。 Listen to him sharing his criteria for finding his soulmate:He met his wife Charlotte in 2001 in a typically quirky de Bottonian way。 He was talking with friends late at night and someone asked him to describe his ideal girlfriend， so he did， in great detail， and "miraculously one person in the room took note of this and introduced me to Charlotte the very next weekend。" It was miraculous， given the specificity of his demands。 He said his ideal girlfriend had to be a doctor's daughter who grew up outside London and worked in business or science， all of which Charlotte was。 "She was a businesswoman， she'd started her own company， she knew how to create an Excel spreadsheet or run a payroll - she can do all these things that I can't do。"https://www。theguardian。com/books/200。。。From the description above， he’s talking about a job interview and the dear lady has to meet certain qualifications instead of expecting her to complete him and he completes her。 She had to be a doctor’s daughter？ What if she’s the garbage man’s daughter but she is a kindred spirit， a soulmate， such a joy and a comfort to be with and she makes you feel fully alive？！ 。。。more

Supriya ，

beautifully expressed thoughts about love and longing of two lead characters， Rabih Khan and his beautiful Scottish wife Kirsten， and about the course of a marriage。 reminded me a bit about Ann Patchett's "The story of a happy marriage"， but this is a bit more melancholic。 the psychology of attachment and separation are explored with the fictional veneer to explain these to a lay audience beautifully expressed thoughts about love and longing of two lead characters， Rabih Khan and his beautiful Scottish wife Kirsten， and about the course of a marriage。 reminded me a bit about Ann Patchett's "The story of a happy marriage"， but this is a bit more melancholic。 the psychology of attachment and separation are explored with the fictional veneer to explain these to a lay audience 。。。more

Mojca Jerman ，

“And yet maturity begins with the capacity to sense and， in good time and without defensiveness， admit to our own craziness。 If we are not regularly deeply embarrassed by who we are， the journey to self-knowledge hasn’t begun。”

Ceren Öney ，

ilişiki yaşayan ya da yaşamak isteyen herkesin okuması gereken bir kitap。 Botton'un dili zaten çok akıcı， okuduğum her kitabına bayılmışımdır ama bu kitap biraz daha hayatıma dokundu， çok yerin altını çizdim ve ara ara dönüp okuyacağım。 ilişiki yaşayan ya da yaşamak isteyen herkesin okuması gereken bir kitap。 Botton'un dili zaten çok akıcı， okuduğum her kitabına bayılmışımdır ama bu kitap biraz daha hayatıma dokundu， çok yerin altını çizdim ve ara ara dönüp okuyacağım。 。。。more

Mai Mislang ，

“Choosing a person to marry is just a matter of deciding what kind of suffering we want to endure。” Signature de Botton

Reference

google book https://www.google.com/search?tbm=bks&q=The Course of Love

hathitrust digital library https://babel.hathitrust.org/cgi/ls?q1=The Course of Love&field1=ocr&a=srchls&ft=ft&lmt=ft

The British Library https://bll01.primo.exlibrisgroup.com/discovery/search?query=any,contains,The Course of Love&tab=LibraryCatalog&search_scope=Not_BL_Suppress&vid=44BL_INST:BLL01&lang=en&offset=0